The 6% Club

4How to Actually Set a Goal

PEOPLE HAVE MEETINGS all the time. They spend a lot of time in endless meetings at work talking about business goals and projections. Some families have family meetings. If you think about it, meetings are a huge part of running any organization or business, and no organization or business operates without goals and projections.

Now think of yourself. You are the project manager of your own life—the CEO, president, VP, and supporting staff. You are all of those things combined in one person. And yet you never have meetings with yourself. You probably don't set goals, and if you do you don't treat it as seriously as you would if those had been business or work goals. You may set goals over a conversation, over a glass of wine, while doing something else, but you don't really have a real meeting with yourself. You are just too busy. You know when people have meetings with themselves? In therapy. This is the only real meeting that most people have with themselves, the only time they listen to what they are saying, ask themselves important questions, check in with themselves, and, if they're working with a good therapist, hold themselves accountable. It is one of the most beautiful and important things about therapy. You pause.

1. The Power of the Pause

Do you ever pause? I mean really pause. I bet if you think about it, you'll realize that you don't. Not really. Modern life has turned your living experience into a rat race. You're so busy running ...