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The ADHD Book of Lists: A Practical Guide for Helping Children and Teens with Attention Deficit Disorders, 2nd Edition by Sandra F. Rief

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7.11 Do's and Don'ts for Parents and Teachers

  • Don't expect a child to be able to do things that developmentally he or she is not yet able to do.
  • Do remember that children with ADHD are delayed in their development of executive functions, which means they may be a few years behind their peers in their ability to control their impulses, regulate their emotions, plan, organize, manage time, and other executive skills (Lists 1.2, 1.4, 4.1, 4.4).
  • Don't assume when a child does not listen and follow directions that he or she is deliberately noncompliant.
  • Do remember that attention, working memory, and difficulty stopping one activity to do something else (some of the EF weaknesses of children with ADHD) are more likely the reason, and you may need to use other strategies to improve this behavior (Lists 2.4, 2.12, 2.13, 4.2).
  • Don't overly focus your radar on the child's misbehaviors.
  • Do consciously make an effort to notice and pay attention to the child when he or she is behaving appropriately. In other words, catch the child being good and reinforce that positive behavior with your praise and attention (Lists 2.1, 2.2).
  • Don't forget or overlook how essential it is to cultivate and nurture the child's areas of strength and interest.
  • Do involve the child in as many opportunities as possible to build on his or her talents, interests, and passions. Help the child gain confidence and competence through those activities in life that give him or her joy.
  • Don't try to control what no one has ...

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