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The Ask

Book Description

Asking is more than a skill—it's a lifestyle

The Ask is your personal manual for building the best, most fulfilling personal and professional life possible. Crafting the perfect ask can fund your new business, support your favorite charity, and get more quality time with your significant other—but it can do so much more than that. It can change your life. In learning how to ask for what you really want and deserve, you lose your fear of rejection and judgement. You create the greatest sense of self-worth that no one can give you, you give it to yourself when you ask. The critical moment is when you turn your skills inward and make the hardest asks, the ones you ask yourself. This book is designed to make you an Exceptional Asker, and in the process, give you the confidence and skills you need to achieve all your goals and realize your dreams. You'll learn how to prepare, what words to use, what to avoid, and how to follow up, and you'll purge the natural hesitancy that has been holding you back for so long.

Asking is about empowerment. It shows the world that what you want matters. It defines who you are, where you're going, and who will be by your side. This book provides over 175 sample asks, with clear actionable steps to help you claim your space in relationships, at work, and in the world.

  • Rewrite your own rulebook and find empowerment in asking
  • Learn the simple five steps to craft the perfect ask
  • Discover the secret of the ask – it's two sentences and a question
  • Remove your Money Blockers and turn a bad ask into a win
  • Conquer the hardest asks you'll ever make—the ones you ask yourself

Mastering the art of the ask reconfigures your approach to life, and changes the way you tackle challenges and goals. The Ask gives you the skills—and the mindset—you need to accomplish anything you can dream.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Endorsements
  3. Title Page
  4. Copyright
  5. Dedication
  6. Preface
  7. Introduction
  8. Part I: What Will THE ASK Do for You?
    1. Chapter 1: What Is THE ASK?
      1. What Does Money Mean to You?
      2. What Does Money Mean to the Person You Are Asking?
      3. Do You Have Money Wellness?
    2. Chapter 2: Why Should People Ask?
      1. Top 10 Reasons Why You Should Ask
      2. When Not to Ask
      3. Asking Mantras That Will Serve You Well
    3. Chapter 3: Why People Do Not Ask
      1. The Top 15 Reasons Why People Do Not Ask
  9. Part II: How Should You Ask?
    1. Chapter 4: How to Be an Exceptional Asker
      1. The 10 Essential Characteristics of an Exceptional Asker
      2. Actions to Take before You Ask
      3. Three Questions that Come before Any Ask
    2. Chapter 5: The 5-Step Foolproof Method for Any Ask
      1. Know Exactly What You Want
      2. Prepare the Conversation
      3. Deliver with Confidence
      4. Clarify What You Think You Heard
      5. Plan Your Next Move at the Ask
      6. The ASK—It's Two Sentences and a Question
    3. Chapter 6: How to Keep Your Ask on Track
      1. Was Your Ask Really an ASK?
      2. Asking U-Turns
      3. Asking Mistakes
      4. Five Ways to Turn a Bad Ask into a Win
  10. Part III: What Can You Ask For?
    1. Chapter 7: THE ASK for Business—The Stories and the Lessons
      1. Too Big to Learn
      2. Pay Me What I'm Worth
    2. Chapter 8: THE ASK for Philanthropy—The Stories and the Lessons
      1. So Close, Yet So Far
      2. I Really Don't Know Anyone Who Could Support Us
    3. Chapter 9: THE ASK for Everyday Living—The Stories and the Lessons
      1. Is This a Room, or Is This a Closet?
      2. The Spender versus the Saver
    4. Chapter 10: The Hardest Asks You Will Ever Make
      1. The Asks You Need to Make for Yourself
      2. Laura's Story—The Hardest Asks I Have Ever Made
  11. Conclusion
  12. About the Author
  13. Index
  14. End User License Agreement