The good news is this: being asked out to lunch or dinner is a very positive sign. Indeed, you may take it as a strong “buy signal,” a clear expression of significant interest in you. The employer is imagining you as part of the team and wants to get to know you in a setting less formal than the office. Moreover, you are justified in seeing the invitation to lunch or dinner as a gracious act: the employer regards you as a human being, not some anonymous working stiff.
Do you want to get hired, or do you want to lay aggressive claim to your rights under the law? Sure, employers are barred from asking you potentially ...