64. Soaring self-esteem
We formulate who we are through a lifetime of experience. As children, our self-confidence is either nurtured or destroyed depending on how we interpret events.
I have a friend whose view of men was coloured by her experiences as a five-year-old child.
When on holiday with her parents at the seaside, she formed a play friendship with an older boy who was a skilled sandcastle builder. At the end of the day, having been a very willing assistant to the boy’s efforts, my friend thought she deserved at least a kiss. Unsurprisingly the boy wasn’t into kissing girls and told her this in no uncertain terms! The sense of rejection she felt has haunted my friend throughout her life. The interpretation she put on this tiny event ...