“If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?”
—Lily Tomlin, American actor and writer
My digital life began just before my dating life, so it’s no surprise the two quickly became entwined. I met my first boyfriend thanks to the early days of the Internet, and nearly every subsequent romantic relationship I was part of included some form of communicating online—either via e-mail, chat rooms, instant messaging, and/or text messaging. My husband and I still reminisce about flirting virtually via Zephyr, the online messaging system we had on campus at the University of Michigan.
In the case of my first boyfriend, we met online on a BBS and then in person at a group social event. The relationship ...