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The Essential Guide to Grief and Grieving by MS. Debra Holland

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chapter 13

How to Support the Bereaved

Avoid giving negative messages

Handling the funeral

What to say (and what not to say)

Offering support right after the death—and beyond

Specific ways you can help someone who’s grieving

We feel so powerless when those we care about grieve. It’s a natural human desire to try and “fix” the griever’s feelings or painful situation and/or make the person feel better. Yet we also feel helpless. Most of the time, we can’t replace the loss, especially of a loved one.

Most people are uncomfortable with those who are grieving. We have no formal education about grief to make it easier to interact with the bereaved. We don’t understand how to be there for them. Many people make the mistake of staying away because ...

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