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The Gender Communication Handbook: Conquering Conversational Collisions between Men and Women by Audrey Nelson, Ph.D., Claire Damken Brown, Ph.D.

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CHAPTER 6

Men, Women, and Conflict

Take It Like a Man Versus Nice Girls Don’t Do Conflict

The Chinese have a character for conflict that consists of two symbols: one for opportunity and the other for danger.

—Victor H. Mair (2009)

Learning Objectives

  • Understand and self-assess how gender-conflict styles are developmentally formed and evolve to shape adult conflict-management repertoires.
  • Determine how women’s conflict mantra, “Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal,” affects conflict outcomes.
  • Know how men’s conflict mantra, “Winning at any cost is the name of the game,” affects conflict outcomes.
  • Distinguish the double standard of how men and women express anger with a flight or fight approach.
  • Analyze how women show vulnerability and men ...

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