No matter where you’re from or where you find yourself now, the circumstances of your life are largely dependent on your choices. However, they can be equally dependent on someone else. Your happiness with your partner is predicated not just on how much you love him or her, and how good you feel about yourself, but on your relationship with his or her family and friends. Your success at work is predicated not only on how you chart your path but also on how effective you are at getting a coworker to do something he doesn’t want to but you need him to. This is a universal truth: the way you engage with others and how you construct these relationships is absolutely integral to getting what you want.

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