If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.
—Francois de la Rochefoucauld
We are social beings. We live in community and depend on others to perform countless functions to make our work and lives operate smoothly. And yet, oftentimes we feel disassociated from others and even may think that we can do it alone. The truth is we need meaningful relationships to thrive. Yet we fight it—we crave togetherness and we also lament the pain, frustration, and anger (all really just different aspects of the same thing) that unmet expectations and disagreements in relationships provoke in us. These emotions sometimes drive us to the point that we swear off ever being in one again. Yes, even the relationships we have with our parents, children, lover, spouse, and dear friends are called into question and sometimes broken temporarily or permanently for the rest of our lives. After isolating ourselves for a while, most of us try again with new people or the same one(s) from before. The longing for connection, nurture, and meaning that relationships can bring, draw us back like a powerful magnet, indeed it is our instinct.
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.