If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than 5 minutes.


Questioning, along with listening, are critical skills for coaching. As a coach you need to inquire and probe to allow the coachee to discover more, become more aware, and work out answers for themselves.

Asking good questions isn’t easy. We find that people tend to tell and give advice rather than think of the right question to ask. The humanist psychologist Carl Rogers tells us that our inability to communicate is a result of our failure to listen and respond effectively. So it is very ...

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