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There's a big, strong mother elephant and there's a baby elephant.
The baby elephant is tied to a post by a thick rope. It strains and heaves against the rope trying to break free.
The mother elephant is tied to a post by a thin, fraying rope. With her enormous strength she could snap the rope or uproot the post. She does neither.
A child observes this and scratches her head. She speaks to the elephant trainer.
‘The baby cannot escape but tries to. The mother can escape but does not', she says. ‘Why doesn't the mother break free?’
‘When she was a baby she also tried to break free. She learned that she could not', he ...