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The Locker Room Playbook
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The Locker Room Playbook

by Stephen Mackey, Damon West
November 2022
Intermediate to advanced content levelIntermediate to advanced
192 pages
1h 13m
English
Wiley
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11Vulnerability Is a Strength

For Everyone

Core Lessons

  • Apologies must be authentic and sincere, with no expectation that the apology will be accepted.
  • Apologies can give closure and validation, as well as relieving guilt and shame.
  • Apologies make you vulnerable, but vulnerability is a strength.

Chapter Summary

Coach Smitty meets with Marcellus one-on-one in his office so he can offer a heartfelt apology for his behavior that morning. Marcellus has many competing emotions regarding the apology, and he only partially accepts it. But Coach Smitty knows that an apology must be given without any expectation of acceptance by the wounded party. Together they walk out to talk to the rest of the team about the broken locker room.

Deep Dive Teaching

Apologizing when you've hurt someone is not an easy thing to do. It puts you in a vulnerable position because there's always the chance that they won't accept the apology. But an apology is worthwhile because it can bring peace and validation to the person receiving the apology, and it can be a vehicle to relieve guilt and shame for the person making the apology.

There are three key pieces to making an apology. Let's look at each briefly.

Acknowledge what you did wrong. The first step to apologizing for hurting someone is to simply acknowledge how your actions hurt them. Own the mistake. Don't try to make excuses for why you did what you did. Even if you had very good reasons, the fact is that the other person was harmed by something ...

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