Whether or not you are aware of the messages you are sending, they are being transmitted nonetheless. Remember, you cannot not communicate. Everything you say, everything you do communicates something about you as a person and you as a manager. In what ways are you influencing others?

Think about the following questions. Then, once you’ve recorded your answers to them, ask your team members the same questions in reference to your views. Privately, compare their answers to yours. If you find yourself being surprised by the discrepancies between the two sets of answers, you may need to rethink the messages you are deliberately or inadvertently communicating.

1. What is your work philosophy?

2. How is it made evident?

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