You already know who I was as a confronter—a wimp. Now it’s time for you to ask yourself, “Who am I as a confronter?” Who are you when you’re dealing with coworkers, family members, and friends in sticky situations?
You can’t say you don’t know who you are as a confronter or that you’re no particular kind of confronter. You are someone as a confronter. Everyone is.
I know this is hard. No one wants to admit, “I scream my head off in confrontations,” or “I avoid difficult conversations like the plague.” Admitting to these behaviors is admitting to others that your behavior is unattractive or self-defeating. I hated to think of myself as a wimp.
But if you avoid people during difficult ...