Refusing to Hide Out
We all live our lives trying to avoid embarrassment. Can you recognize when you and your group are hiding out and playing safe?
Take a minute to remember the first time you ever felt embarrassed or shamed in front of others. Most people have no trouble bringing the disturbing memory back up to consciousness. What most people do not know is that from that moment on, you spent your life trying to make sure you never put yourself in a position where you might have that feeling again.
Somewhere along the way, as you and your group pursue your “declared date-certain outcome,” you will probably become discouraged. Things are not going as planned and just seem too hard. But you cannot admit it's your fault you might fail for fear of shame and embarrassment. For those who choose, there are three convenient places to hide out so that you can fail to produce your declared outcome but not get blamed. Most people do not know they are hiding out; however, you realize this if you master the following three PRIMES. You will also know that everybody who reads this book knows you are hiding out. (Sometimes ignorance really is bliss.)
The next three PRIMES will reveal the following: First, you will sense when you and the group are giving up your power to others and “going victim”—and you will know how to stop this from happening. Second, you will know that there is no risk in planning and growing anxious when excessive time is spent talking about taking action rather ...