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The Rules of Parenting, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 29

Make sure they know what’s important

Hang on – I haven’t quite done with praise yet. OK, now we know how to give them praise effectively. But have you ever stopped to think about what you praise your child for? Think about it now.

I know parents who praise their children most frequently for winning things. In some cases it’s sports, in others it’s school work. I know others whose praise is largely focused on polite behaviour. Or looking beautifully turned out. Or being ‘good’.

The things we choose to praise our children for tell them more about our values than almost anything else. This is how our children assess what really matters in life. If they get all the best responses from you for looking beautiful, or for winning, or for eating ...

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