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The Rules of Parenting, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 100

Wait until they ask for advice

Having read the last Rule,* you might be wondering what you’re supposed to do if your child wants your advice. That’s no problem, you can give it to them.

That was a bit easy. Hardly worth a whole Rule, was it? Which is why, as you’ll have noticed, I haven’t left the rest of this page blank. There are two things you need to know about giving advice to your adult kids (and anyone else, come to think of it):

  • Never, ever give them advice unless they ask.
  • Give them only what they ask for.

If they ask for advice, they’re asking for advice. They’re not asking for instructions, directions, orders, comments on their lifestyle, opinions, judgements or anything else. They’re just asking for advice, plain and ...

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