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The Shift by Kimberly White

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11   How to Use the Third Key

WHEN YOU’RE STILL A JERK

Here’s the problem with starting to see people as people: it turns out you’re still you.

So much about my life changed when I began to see my husband as a person; our relationship was transformed, no question, unbelievably for the better. In those first couple of weeks I thought we might never argue again because I was so completely changed.

It’s okay, you can laugh.

What I hadn’t counted on was that even with a new perspective on my life and my relationship, I was still the same person I was before, with the same faults, failings, and limitations. Only a month or so later, I came home from a trip to the usual disarray and became as angry and critical and judgmental as I ever had been before. ...

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