Chapter 2. Why I've Been Such a Failure

 

"Having been here and lost, to be here and win, I've got to tell you, winning is really a lot better than losing, a lot better."

 
 --Kate Winslet, British actress (receiving her Oscar on Academy Award night)
 

"Ultimately, success is not measured by first-place prizes. It's measured by the road you have traveled: how you have dealt with the challenge and the stumbling blocks you've encountered along the way."

 
 --Nicole Haislett, Olympic swimming champion
 

"There is nothing better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time."

 
 --Og Mandino, sales guru
 

"Two men look out the same prison bars.

One sees mud and the other stars."

 
 --Frederick Langbridge, English poet

Why I've Been Such a Failure

Taking a Chance

I'm going to tell you some things that hurt to talk about. Things that are a little embarrassing, even.

About what a loser I've been at certain moments in my life. About the self-defeating things I've done to myself and others. About how low I've sunk, and how desperate I've been. About how many times my back's been pressed tight up against the wall.

This is probably not what you'd expect to hear from a guy who shouts "You can do it!" to so many people—from a man whose life seems to be a public testimonial to making money, developing self-esteem, and charging people up with super-positive energy.

But here it is.

I'm telling you these things not because ...

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