Toxic People: Decontaminate Difficult People At Work: Without Using Weapons Or Duct Tape

Chapter 14. Mental Looting

Mental looting can provide initial paralysis during the decontamination process. The input from others becomes disturbing and creates a thought process that ignores reality and generates mental terrorism. This human mayhem can be overcome by finding the true underlying cause of your thinking.

The internal hurricane of self-doubt mentally loots you of your confidence, willingness to accept change, and ability to deal with Toxic People. Your frames of reference create unconscious patterns from very small bits of experience. These translate into the memories of negativity, can make you a victim, and create internal misery.

Look to Ben

When you are having trouble moving forward, stop and create a so-called Ben Franklin list comprised of the pros and cons of the situation. This neglected tool helps you survive the floodwaters from others or even from yourself. When making this list, brainstorm with yourself and include everything. Nothing is sacred!

Problem: I need to approach my boss and explain that I am stressed and have too much to do.

PROS (REASONS FOR TAKING ACTION)	CONS (WHY I THINK I SHOULDN'T)
My work will be better prioritized.	The boss will get angry.
I'll have less stress.	The approach will create more stress.
I'll be more productive.	Because I brought it up, my boss will give me more work.
I'll determine a better use of my skills.	My boss or team doesn't care about my being overwhelmed.
I will have better focus.	They won't see how my focus will be improved.
I'll ...