The centered state is a conscious choice.


When you change, everything changes.

—Judy Ringer

Primary Purpose

Chapter 4's purpose is to give the parties ways to effectively change their mind-body state to one of optimal performance and emotional awareness. You help both parties experience the difference between a centered and an uncentered state as well as how to choose the centered state anytime, anywhere.


  • Know the purpose and desired outcome for the session.
  • Know which skills you will focus on and why.
  • Have scenarios in mind for role-playing and practicing the skills.
  • Read your notes from the previous session.
  • Enter with optimism for a positive outcome.


  • Express gratitude for the person's ...

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