The Interplay of Difference and Shame
In individual therapy, there is an implicit agreement that the therapist is on the side of the patient. In couple's therapy, however, the therapist is on the side of the relationship. This may leave each individual's vulnerabilities fully exposed to his or her significant other. Given this reality, it inevitably takes courage to invite a stranger, albeit a good-intentioned one, into the intimate workings of a couple's private life. For lesbian and gay couples seeking treatment, this invitation may present greater hazards than those taken by their heterosexual cohorts. Historically, because psychoanalytic practitioners obscured the lives of lesbian and gay individuals in the language ...