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Use Your Difference to Make a Difference
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Use Your Difference to Make a Difference

by Tayo Rockson
September 2019
Intermediate to advanced content levelIntermediate to advanced
240 pages
4h 49m
English
Wiley
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28Applying LORA to Instead, Communicate

Remember that LORA is my acronym for Listen, Observe, Reflect, and Act, the system I developed as a way to apply every concept I explain; what's shown here is for the Instead, Communicate framework. As in earlier chapters, it's both a summary and an action plan, so take out your journals and make note of all these.

Listen

When you communicate, remember to keep in mind how you listen when you educate and how you listen when you are committing to fight against perpetuation. Remember to be an active listener by listening to learn, evaluate, and understand, and listen to the systems around you. Keep all this in mind as you listen to the facts instead of your opinion. Listen for common values to share.

Observe

  • Observe moments you find yourself getting defensive, passive-aggressive, and aggressive in communication.
  • Observe moments in your communication when your intention does not match the impact and moments when your intention matches impact.

Reflect

  • Reflect on moments in the past when you practiced dehumanization in conflict. Why did you do so?
  • Reflect on moments you ignored the issue of a conflict and attacked the person. Why did you do so?
  • Do you make it an effort to understand the other person's motives and interests?
  • Do you put down others while trying to make your point?
  • Are you a willing teacher when someone makes a mistake around you? Reflect on whether you create paths to forgive or you are quick to cancel people if they ...
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