Rebellious, entitled, disrespectful, many kids pummel their parents with demands, and boss them around with impunity. Experts might label them "difficult" and advise how to "fix" them. But parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. Fixing the child requires fixing yourself.
In When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume leadership roles. With a liberating message and perceptive advice, the book explores:
- Three common bullying styles (defiant, manipulative, anxious) used by kids
- Parenting styles (guilt-prone, anxiety-fueled, fix-everything) that contribute to power imbalances
- Critical testing periods in a child's development
- Coping mechanisms that backfire
- Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario
- And more
Caving in to tantrums and threats breeds more of the same. Learn to stop the cycle of abusive behavior and make parenting a pleasure again.
Table of Contents
- 1 Escape the Suffering Parents Club
- 2 What Happened to My Sweet, Adorable Child?
- 3 How We Become Our Kids’ Victims—and Strategies to Prevent Parent Burnout
- 4 Understanding Your Kid’s Bullying Behavior Style
- 5 Your Parenting Style—and How Good Parents Fall into Bad Habits
- 6 Tools to Give You Both Just the Right Amount of Power
- 7 How to Assemble Your Anti-Bullying Support Team
- 8 Navigating the Seven Parenting Crises That Can Trigger Bullying
- About the Author
- Free Sample from Parenting with a Story by Paul Smith
- Title: When Kids Call the Shots
- Release date: June 2015
- Publisher(s): AMACOM
- ISBN: 9780814436011