What Do You Hear When Someone Says NO?
What we hear when someone says NO is largely a function of who we are, rather than the NO itself. Our level of self-esteem, confidence, and optimism or pessimism colors how we hear and interpret NO from others.
Some people hear:
“You’re stupid. Why on earth did you bring this to me?”
“What were you thinking?”
“You’re a loser.”
“I don’t like you.”
“You’ll never amount to anything in this organization.”
“Who do you think you are?”
“If I want you to have good ideas, I’ll give them to you!”
These people personalize every NO, interpreting rejection as a sign of personal incompetence, stupidity, and sometimes even worthlessness. They suffer greatly in the face of NO and are not inclined to persist, risking ...