Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.
—Kurt Cobain; you know who this one is, right?
When I first started getting into self-helpery, there was lots of talk about something called the “Ego” that confused the hell out of me. I always thought that Ego was about being conceited and braggy and all, “I’m gonna talk on and on and on about how great I am and then I’m gonna show you my muscles.” Meanwhile, even though arrogance and conceit (which are different from self-love and confidence, BTW) are part of the Ego, they’re not, as I later learned, the whole dealio.
In the self-help/spiritual community, “Ego” is used to refer to the shadow self, or the false self, or the self that’s acting ...