Does the following scenario sound familiar? Two friends are in a clothing store trying on potential purchases, when friend 1 says, “OMG, I look like a cow in this!” In response to that self-effacing comment, friend 2 retorts, “No you don’t. You look great! Now, I would look like a cow in that!” The two friends proceed to volley mutual accolades over fitting-room doors, all the while tossing darts of body insults at themselves. We call this friendship.
Oppression and marginalization often force female-identified people and other marginalized folks to play small as a strategy for survival. Consequently, many of us have ...