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You're Addicted to You

Book Description

All of us have things about ourselves we'd like to change. Maybe you want to be more organized, healthier, thinner, or more outspoken. Or perhaps you want to procrastinate less, quit smoking, listen better, or be a better leader. Whatever you want to change, you probably believe that your success depends on your conviction. The fact of the matter is, willpower alone won't get you to change.

Noah Blumenthal illustrates how each of us becomes so thoroughly conditioned to act in old, counterproductive ways that negative behaviors become part of our very being. In a very real sense we become addicted to ourselves. The problem, he explains, isn't that you aren't trying hard enough, but that you've never learned the right way to make difficult changes. Here, he details a proven three-stage strategy—illuminated with practical tools, techniques, and exercises—for breaking self-addictions and conquering damaging behaviors like anger, workaholism, risk aversion, procrastination, overeating, under-exercising—just about anything. We all want to change our counterproductive behaviors. Here, Blumenthal offers a step-by-step guide for how to do it successfully.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover Page
  2. Title Page
  3. Copyright Page
  4. Praise for You’re Addicted to You
  5. Preface
    1. How should you use this book?
    2. What will you find in this book?
  6. Acknowledgments
  7. Introduction: Understanding Self-Addiction
    1. What does it mean to be addicted to yourself?
    2. What are some common self-addictions?
    3. Where do addictions come from?
    4. What do you have to gain?
    5. How are self-addictions broken?
    6. What if you face a clinical addiction?
  8. Part I: Raising Awareness
    1. Step 1: Identify Your Self-Addictions
      1. How can you discover your self-addictions?
      2. Levels of Awareness
    2. Step 2: Realize the Consequences
      1. How can you increase your motivation to change?
    3. Step 3: Make Powerful Commitments
      1. How do you make a commitment powerful?
      2. The Circle of Awareness
  9. Part II: Building Support
    1. Step 4: Find Help
      1. What do you need to consider in order to find help?
      2. Surrounding With Support
    2. Step 5: Invite Support
      1. How do you create effective support relationships?
    3. Step 6: Maintain Effective Support
      1. How can you keep your supporters supporting you?
      2. The Circle of Support
  10. Part III: Taking Action
    1. Step 7: Prepare Yourself
      1. How can you prepare for action?
      2. Surrounding With Action
    2. Step 8: Act In the Moment
      1. What can you do to improve in the moment?
      2. Impulses vs. Intentions
    3. Step 9: Assess Your Progress
      1. What should you do to assess your progress?
      2. Circle of Action
  11. Conclusion: Moving Onward
    1. What should you do next?
    2. Whom should you thank?
    3. Whom can you help?
    4. What’s next?
    5. A Final Note
  12. Recommended Reading
  13. Resources for Traditional Addictions
  14. Index
  15. About the Author
  16. About Berrett-Koehler Publishers
    1. A BK Life Book
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