Most people look for a magic bullet when it comes to negotiation, and well, there is one. Are you ready? Okay, here it is. Prepare. After years of offering this advice, sending people off, and expecting magic to occur that never did, I finally realized the problem: Rehearsing does not equal preparation.
There are two styles of preparation, and only one of them works. Let's call the two styles Pattern X and Pattern Y.
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