A More Perfect Derrière

Confident Humility

You learn more from getting your butt kicked than getting it kissed.—Tom Hanks

Most butt kicks are the natural consequence of a leader’s accumulated behavior over time. Often, they are an inevitable response to exaggerated hubris or withering meekness. You’re most likely to get them when you’re overly prideful or anemically weak. Butt kicks are life’s mysterious and painful way of reminding us of the dangers of too much or too little confidence.


When we believe in ourselves more than we should, when we put more stock in our skills and capabilities than they actually warrant, when we start all tasks from the presumption that “I got this,” overconfidence begins to distort our leadership. ...

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