CHAPTER 9Self-Awareness
The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.
—STEVE MARABOLI
| Meta-Competency | Competency | Abundance Behavior |
|---|---|---|
| Self-Awareness | Reflection and affect | Seeks out the opinion and energy of others when appropriate |
| Is rarely ruffled and keeps an even tone and affect in most situations | ||
| Manages their time well | ||
| Interpersonal adeptness | Demonstrates empathy and compassion for others | |
| Gives their attention and kindness without effort | ||
| Addresses conflict | ||
| Morality | Has a strong moral compass that is evident in their language and actions | |
| Is trustworthy | ||
| Ego control | Is humble | |
| Is not egocentric; does not have a “me, me” attitude |
“I've decided to step down from my leadership role and go back to teaching.”
“I don't want to be the head of IT anymore; I miss the coding and design work I used to do before I became a leader.”
These are rare but not unheard-of comments from some of Tony's and my coaching clients. “Why is this so darn hard?!” is a frequent lament we hear in managers’ and leaders’ offices. Managing and leading are not easy. Is one or all of the following true for you on a regular basis?
- Managing is exhausting you.
- Managing is exciting you.
- Leading is scaring you.
- Leading is thrilling you.
Based on my experience teaching thousands of managers and leaders, I estimate that only 10% of people are natural managers and leaders. Often it is the lure of higher compensation or more status ...
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