When possible, make your requests to people who can make decisions. Asking those in authority can make some people feel insecure. These requesters are apprehensive about differences in wealth, training, age, or gender. They believe their education, experience, or upbringing has not prepared them to talk to those who wield power. Do you hesitate when making requests of those in authority? If so, you’re not alone—several survey respondents do:

I dread the repercussions of asking.

Asking may cause even more work for me without a guaranteed positive outcome.

If I ask, the other person might expect favors in return.

The person I need to ask is an intimidating person, which makes me uncomfortable in asking.

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