Body Language For Dummies, 3rd Edition

Chapter 20

Ten Ways to Improve Your Silent Communication

In This Chapter

Creating impressions

Being willing to adapt

If you’ve ever been in awe of someone who’s comfortable asking for what he wants, dresses in a way that suits him and leaves people feeling good about themselves, now’s your chance to discover his secrets. Actually, they’re not such big secrets. It’s more a matter of attitude. If you’re aware of your current behaviour and are willing to do what you have to do to get the results you want, you’re well on your way to achieving them.

Taking an Interest

The best communicators take an interest in other people. They empathise with you and, just by observing you, know how you’re feeling. Think about those people whose company you thoroughly enjoy. I’m willing to bet – and I’m not a betting woman – that you seek the companionship of people who make you feel good about yourself. At least, I hope you do.

If you think that you’re a good communicator but for some odd reason no one else agrees, consider your behaviour. The problem could be that you’re so busy focusing on yourself, your stories and your interests that you’re failing to notice what’s important to other people. If you want people to like you, take an interest in them.

I once described another person as ‘boring’. ...