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Body Language For Dummies®, 2nd Edition by Elizabeth Kuhnke

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Chapter 8

Arming Yourself

In This Chapter

arrow Shutting people out

arrow Letting someone in

arrow Disguising anxiety

arrow Sending signals through bodily contact

Whether you’re crossing your arms as a protective shield or opening them as a sign of welcome, the way you position your arms tells an astute observer how you’re feeling.

Certain postures elicit certain moods. Crossed arms hold your feelings in and keep other people’s out. They show that you’ve set up roadblocks beyond which no person dares travel. Stay with this position for too long and you find yourself feeling shut off and negative. Unless, of course, you’re cold, in which case holding your arms across your chest keeping the warmth in and the cold out makes perfect sense.

As for contact, touching can be a great tonic as long as you know who, when, where, and how. Get touching right and the person you touch feels engaged and connected; get it wrong and prepare yourself for a sharp smack.

This chapter shows you how you can read arms signals, appear self-controlled, and increase your influence through physical contact.

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