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Body Language For Dummies®, 2nd Edition by Elizabeth Kuhnke

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Chapter 19

Ten Ways to Find Out About Someone Without Asking

In This Chapter

arrow Observing the signs

arrow Reflecting on the meaning

So, you’ve seen someone who’s caught your eye. Although she’s interesting enough to investigate, you don’t want to pump your friends for information at this stage. What do you do? Pay attention.

You have two eyes, two ears, and one mouth. Use them in that order and you may discover what qualities this person possesses that floats your boat or rings your bells, without you giving your game away.

Observing Eye Movements

Do they flash? Do they flicker? Are they dull and dreary? Turn to the eyes, the gateway to the soul, as your first point of reference.

No matter how much your mouth churns out information, your eyes reveal more. Eyes that turn downwards like Antonio Banderas’s give the impression that the person is authoritative and caring. Women swoon at Banderas’s combination of soulful eyes and strong physique. They also quiver at the new James Bond, Daniel Craig, he of the steely blue eyes and climbing-frame figure, and swoon at Hollywood heart throb, Ryan Gosling. What are those men’s eyes saying?

Queen Elizabeth II seldom gives her emotions a public viewing, and quite rightly, too. Even though she shows a down-to-earth kindness in her eyes, they’re covered ...

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