11 Attracting Others

“I speak two languages, Body and English.”

Mae West

In every situation in which you engage with other people, your non-verbal behaviour gets in on the act. Whether you’re trying to get a waiter’s attention, end an argument, or stand up to a bully, the pace of your movements, the type of posture you adopt, the gestures that you use, and the quality of your voice influence the way you deliver your message and how others perceive you.

At work, keeping your body language as neutral as possible is advisable to prevent others from questioning your motives. Touching in the workplace, for example, is discouraged. That’s unfortunate, because a touch can convey encouragement and praise. It can also convey sexual interest. To ...

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