Bold Moves

Chapter 4 Step into your power

The problem isn’t aiming too high and missing; it’s not aiming high enough.

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What stops you from pushing through moments of self-doubt?

There’s a fine line between taking on a lot and being motivated by it and taking on too much and being overwhelmed by it. I love what I do at work and I love being a mum, so I’m really passionate about both my work and family, which is my driving force. But of course I get overwhelmed and when I do I just compartmentalise it: I break it down and just take one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time. No-one trains for a marathon by starting with 40 kilometres. I don’t run marathons (in fact, I don’t run — I’m hopeless at it). But if I did, I would run 1 kilometre and build up every day from there. It’s no different from anything else in your life. And every day is different — that’s what I love.

Self-doubt can make you feel vulnerable, and being vulnerable is hard. I’m an open person and I can easily share my mistakes and be vulnerable, especially with people who are on the same journey as me. (Humour always helps too.) But there’s a limit to who I’ll share my mistakes with: if I feel like I’m being judged, or if people are going to use it against me, I won’t open up. But I can also easily take the piss out of myself!

I will naturally stand up and tell people, ‘We shouldn’t have done this’. Being apologetic isn’t hard for me. In fact, I’ll say, ‘You know what? It was a deliberate decision. I made a ...