CHAPTER 7

Myth: Women Can Have It All—Work and Life Balance

You can’t have everything that you want, but you can have the things that really matter to you.

—Marissa Mayer

As director of policy planning for the U.S. State Department, Anne-Marie Slaughter once wrote in an essay for The Atlantic that she thought she had a foreign policy dream job, one that she would stick to as long as she had the career opportunity. Ultimately, she gave up her dream position and returned to academia. She lived in Washington, D.C. during the week and went home on weekends to be with her husband and children in New Jersey. When she accepted the government job, she began working long hours on someone else’s schedule.

She caught a 5:30 a.m. train from New Jersey to ...

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