To be good, according to the vulgar standard of goodness, is obviously quite easy. It merely requires a certain amount of sordid terror, a certain lack of imaginative thought, and a certain low passion for middle-class respectability.


The “shoulds” are those things we think we have to do, gotta do, but don’t really want to do. For example, I should network more. I should take Spanish classes to improve my résumé. I should be making more money. I should exercise. I should do this, that, or the other thing. All these “shoulds” are weighing you down and keeping you from getting on with the really interesting stuff in your life. I’m sure you could make up a nice little list of shoulds right now ...

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