The Coaching Relationship
You don’t have to have “chemistry” with your client. You don’t have to be best friends or dinner companions, but you must have a workable relationship in order to fulfill your coaching work. Sometimes people attempt to hide behind roles—executive, parent, boss—and have the power or authority of the role replace the relationship. It won’t work. Roles may provide the circumstances, but only the relationship can provide the foundation.
“To communicate is to enter the other, while watching ourselves carefully, to enter without usurping..To usurp the other is to annul him, to prevent him from returning the gift; it is the refusal to accept his discrete word; it is to violate his inner home without allowing him to enter ...