June 2011
Beginner to intermediate
397 pages
10h 45m
English
Content preview from Coaching with NLP For Dummies®
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Modelling Excellence
Modelling lies at heart of NLP, and learning about modelling provides a fast track to developing new ways of behaving and being. NLP assumes that people can learn much faster by finding models of excellence. After all, if someone has already successfully done something, why waste time reinventing the wheel? Instead, find someone who has already trodden the path you want to follow.
Modelling is particularly valuable when your clients are enthusiastic about wanting to make change. In Chapter 11, I explore the modelling process in more depth, and you see that modelling can extend from easily observable behaviours to less obvious ones, such as modelling beliefs and thought patterns.
Finding and following exemplars
Modelling begins when your client has clear outcomes and can identify her exemplar, the person she can learn various strategies from. The more specific clients are on a tangible skill, the easier modelling someone becomes. Think about it: modelling someone who can fix the shower or run a charity supper night is probably easier than modelling someone who knows how to be happy.
The ancient philosopher Socrates provides a superb role model for coaches: ‘As for me, all I know is that I know nothing’. By staying in the ‘know nothing’ space, you as a coach remain curious and open to discover rather than to teach.
Sian is a business analyst who knew she wanted ...
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