3Beyond Fight and Flight

A MORE INTENTIONAL MINDSET

Our view of reality is like a map with whichto negotiate the terrain of life.If the map is true and accurate, we will generallyknow where we are, and if we have decidedwhere we want to go, we will generally knowhow to get there.If the map is false and inaccurate,we generally will be lost.

M. SCOTT PECK

Clearly our win and minimize predilections aren’t the best navigational beacons if we’re seeking balanced dialogue under pressure, so we need a new map and compass if we’re to chart a more deliberate behavioral path. To that end, in this chapter we’ll explore a new way of thinking that intentionally subordinates our fight-or-flight reactions to a loftier set of goals. To ensure this new way of ...

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