The Stinky Twins: Blaming Others, Blaming Self


“After anger comes shame.”

—Benjamin Franklin

I was discussing the physiology of negative energy during a seminar and had just finished a module on “flooding,” the biofeedback word for anger. Bruce, an attendee, had been riveted by the discussion. Now we were on break, and he couldn't stop talking.

Bruce told me he was a combat veteran who struggled with reflexive, aggressive reactions to frustration and threat. He said, “I just can't get a handle on my anger, and I've pushed everyone away. Everyone that cared about me has left. I want to tell you, Anna, that I've learned more about anger in ...

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