13The Grenade


Mark and Margie had been happily married for 6 years. The problem was that they got married 15 years ago. And since the first 6 were the happy years, it seemed like they were doomed to suffer if they stayed together. Yet, somewhere inside, each knew that it could be what it was meant to be. So doggedly they stayed together, hoping and praying for a miracle.

Theirs was a common pattern: She blew up/he withdrew. The more she blew up, the more he withdrew. The more he withdrew, the more she blew up. They each felt victimized by the other’s behavior.

Mark came home from work tired. All he wanted was a little peace and quiet, a chance ...

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