Developing your EI in this dimension
Respect
When I was growing up, my mother used to remind me that, ‘It is not what you say, but the way you say it,’ that matters most.
While I still agree with this principle, I think that, in the days of modern communication, we need to be thinking more about the actual words we use, as well as the way we use them.
Don’t think about the number nine!
So, why did you think about it?
The simple answer might be that our subconscious brains do not recognise the word don’t, though we all understand the concept of don’t. If we are doing something and another person says, ‘Don’t do that,’ we will stop or, at the very least, ask why.
Yet, by linking don’t with a different set of instructions, it can become autosuggestion. ...
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