Winning isn’t getting ahead of others. It’s getting ahead of yourself.
There are two primary drives to win. One is healthy, and the other is destructive.
Most people want to win so that they can feel better about themselves. If they can associate themselves and their ego with winning, they come to the conclusion that maybe they are okay after all. And, of course, if they lose, they feel badly because they then come to the conclusion that something is wrong or broken within them.
This state describes the vast majority of us. The emotional responses to both winning and losing are quite obvious, yet most ...