CHAPTER 18

Keep Your Home Life Sane When Work Gets Crazy

by Stewart D. Friedman

When you’re going through a phase that compels you to put more time, effort, brainpower, and heart into your job, how do you work it out with your family and others who matter in your life? And how do you make sure this spike in your focus on work doesn’t become a “new normal” that extends indefinitely into the future? The short answer: Dialogue about what matters most—to you and to them.

First, forget balance, which is a misguided metaphor for what success looks like in the different parts of life. It’s not possible to have perfect equilibrium among the four domains of life—work, home, community, and self—every day, every week, or even every year. Naturally, there ...

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