When Your Boss Doesn’t Respect Your Family Commitments

by Rebecca Knight

Quick Takes

  • Have a one-on-one conversation with your boss
  • Frame your plans in terms of achieving business goals
  • Communicate often—but set clear boundaries
  • Find allies inside your organization
  • Be ready to move on if necessary

When trying to balance your work and family commitments, it helps to have a boss who is understanding and supportive: someone who doesn’t raise an eyebrow when you sign off early to attend a school event or take a personal day to accompany an aging parent to a doctor’s appointment.

But what if your manager isn’t sympathetic to your familial responsibilities? Or worse, your boss is outright dismissive or is even hostile toward your obligations? ...

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