Heal to Lead

13Fundamental #2: Embodying Vulnerability

FROM HEALING OUR traumatic experiences—and being able to distinguish between reality and our false narratives—the ability to be vulnerable is born. As opposed to historical association with weakness, vulnerability makes leaders more approachable, more trustworthy, and more human to those they lead. It also brings people together in times of crisis, transition, or transformation.

If taking radical responsibility for one's own emotions and being willing to be authentically vulnerable are proven to be powerful leadership tools, how did we veer so far off course?

A History Lesson

The concept of vulnerability has a long and complex history, particularly in terms of how it's been understood and valued. Its interpretation has evolved significantly over time, shaped by changing societal values, philosophies, and ideologies. Vulnerability was often seen as a weakness across many societies, and this perception was informed by a wide array of cultural, social, and even biological factors. Individuals who showed signs of vulnerability were perceived as less capable of contributing to the group's survival or even as a potential burden, risk, or threat to survival. Thus, vulnerability—susceptibility to harm or damage—was seen as a trait that might endanger the individual and their entire community, and must therefore be avoided.

Many societies place great value on traits such as physical strength, courage, and self-sufficiency, often considered ...